Saturday, May 26, 2012

Being Gay and Religion

This entry is not meant to convince others; but a mere expression of my thoughts on things.

It was never that easy to weigh in my identity versus religion. In the back of my head, there’s always something that contrasts what I believe in. Animosity came as I slowly accepted my sexuality. I am gay and according to them, I am a sinner. Aren’t we’re all but sinners anyway? So going to Church has been a question to me; if I go and ask for forgiveness, knowing that I’d still do what people see as a sin, is there repent? With little knowledge that a lot said regarding morality, I felt guilt like I was cheating God and being a hypocrite.

They always say: God loves gay people; only the immoral things that gay people do that he dislikes. Making love with the same sex is a sin, as I get it. So how can you justify being “just human” and your truthful faith? I was always confused. Until I heard His message from someone I have never seen - Anything with “love”, God is with you; setting the firm fine line between “making love” and “having sex”. Now it is clearer, a solid grasp to justify my humanity and faith.
Doing anything with love, God accepts; but doing it for pure pleasure, God dislikes. I think I’d stick to that. 


  1. I completely agree with every single word said in this post.

    anything done with love, God accepts.


  2. "Once you're a Catholic, you're always a Catholic, in terms of your feelings of guilt and remorse and whether you've sinned or not. Sometimes I'm wracked with guilt when I needn't be, and that, to me, is left over from my Catholic upbringing. Because in Catholicism you are born a sinner and you are a sinner all of your life. No matter how you try to get away from it, the sin is within you all the time."

  3. I understand that you are not out to convince, and that you're just expressing your thoughts. Since you are on the topic, let me also express my thoughts. I'm not out to convince you too; I just want to express why I am not yet fully convinced by that line of thinking.

    You see, I find it difficult to believe that the God who created us all would dislike us having sex for the pure pleasure of it. Why is sexual pleasure seen as a sin? Why is it considered bad?

    And going by the "making love" versus "having sex" logic, if I love two of my friends, I can make both of them friends-with-benefits (hooray!) without guilt. After all, there's love involved naman.

    I am happy that you have found something that reconciles your sexual orientation and religion. I have reconciled my orientation with my spirituality, though in a manner different from you. I guess in the end we should be able to live with our choices. =)

  4. I love gays and lesbo... God created human beings, str8, gays, lesbians, so i think maiintindihan niya yun.. disregard religion and religious groups...ang importante you have your GOD.... its your choice parin sa bandang huli.. ;)

  5. What you wrote struck me; in the sense of how you wrote it. I feel this is something you've spent a lot of time reflecting on.

    I think coming to terms with your sexuality and trying to fit it to our understanding of God/religion can be a struggle for many gay people.

    Perhaps we each have to find our own answers. Cheers =)



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